How Can an Unmarried Best Live His Life as a Christian?
To be a Christian is to abide by the teachings and laws of the Lord Jesus Christ. As Christ is the Lord, the Christians are His followers, or servants; and every servant’s ultimate aim is to please his Lord, or Master.
To live as a Christian is to live by the words of Christ. But who has the greater capability to do this, the married or the unmarried? Between the two, who has the better opportunity to serve the Lord without distraction?
I CORINTHIANS 7:32-35 says,
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.The Bible points out the significant differences between the married and the unmarried in terms of serving the Lord. St. Paul said that the unmarried cares for the things that belong to the Lord and on the things that will please the Lord. That means that his top priority is how he could be pleasing in the sight of the Lord. He delights in doing things that are in accordance to His will; and his joy is not on material things like riches and luxuries but in fulfilling the Lord’s teachings.
A married man, on the other hand, cares for the things of the world, and on how he may please his wife. He worries about the day-to-day needs of his family. His thoughts are preoccupied in thinking of ways on how he could earn more for his family’s needs like food and shelter, for the monthly electric and water bills, for the milk and diaper of his babies, and all the other things that would please his wife. So he gives her all the material things she desires, he yields to her whims, and he sees to it that before he makes any decision, or before he does anything, he asks first for her opinion and consent because he doesn’t want to displease her.
Apparently, being married becomes a distraction and a hindrance to one’s service to the Lord. And it is obvious that the unmarried person is in a better position to serve the Lord and to live a life expected of a Christian. And since he is single, his decisions and actions are not dependent on anybody else, and he doesn’t have to please anybody except the Lord. Leading a solitary life gives a person the chance to care for the Lord and for the things of the Lord only.
Allow me to use myself as an example. I am unmarried; I live a solitary life. Because of my situation, I am able to care only for the things of the Lord, and I am able to do things which could please Him. I care for the brethren; I care for His teachings; I care for the preaching of the Gospel. My cares and concerns, and my preoccupations are all directed towards doing things that would please the Lord. And definitely, I wouldn’t be able also to perform all the tasks that rest on my shoulders now if I am married, or if I am a family man. My time and attention would surely be divided and I wouldn’t be able to do my duties to God and to the brethren as faithfully as I should. But because I am single, I am able to devote all my time to care for the things of the Lord.
While it is true that a married person can also serve the Lord but with certain constraints and limitations; he couldn’t give his hundred percent because there are distractions and cares of being married that hinder him.
Therefore, it is more convenient to serve the Lord if the person is unmarried because he is free from all kinds of distractions and cares of this world which are often experienced by those who are married. Besides, to be single gives a person more opportunities to do things that would please the Lord, like paying attention to His teachings and doing charitable works that would benefit other people. And for me, spending one’s life in pleasing the Lord is the best way to live a Christian life.