Give Your Soul a Rest — Forgive and Forget

11/28/2020 29 Comments

What does the Bible say about forgiving others

One of the things that many people find difficult to do is to forgive, especially, if the person who offended them does not manifest any sign of remorse or does not even bother to go out of his or her way to say “sorry” for the wrongdoing committed. 

For many, forgiveness may only be given to someone who acknowledges one’s sin and apologizes for it. But if that person does not apologize, then, there is no way that that person will be forgiven.

However, this should not be the attitude of a real Christian. A real Christian always grants forgiveness to a person who erred against him or her, even if that person did not say the magic word — “sorry”.

Usually, people get hurt if the offense is committed by their loved ones, or by those whom they highly esteem, like their spouses, children, grandchildren, siblings, relatives, and friends.

Hence, it is all the more very un-Christian if you continue to harbor ill feelings towards them simply because they do not approach you to ask for your forgiveness. If you truly love them, you do not have to wait for the time that they will fall on their knees and say “sorry” to you before you forgive them.

With or without the “sorry,” you should have a ready forgiveness for them because you love them. As a song says, “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”

Actually, even if the ones who did you wrong are just your ordinary acquaintances, like a neighbor, a classmate, or an officemate, you should always be ready to forgive. And having this attitude will surely work in your favor.

God commanded us to forgive those who sin against us. So, in forgiving our offenders, we are actually showing God our obedience to Him. All of us commit sins; we all err, wittingly or unwittingly — and we also want to be forgiven by those whom we have offended, or sinned against, including God.

The truth is, each time we ask God to forgive our trespasses, we are also obliged to forgive the trespasses that others committed unto us.

Matthew 6:12 (KJV) says,

And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

In forgiving those who erred against you, you will also be forgiven by God from all your shortcomings and transgressions. Apparently, it is a must that you forgive for you to be forgiven.

As it is written in Matthew 6:14 (KJV),

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

If you readily forgive those who offended you, even without an apology coming from them, you will merit God’s forgiveness. This is aside from the emotional relief that you will experience. Because in forgiving others and in forgetting the offense that they have done unto you, you will be freeing your heart of a heavy load and you will have peace deep within you. Let’s face it, you do not feel good when you are at odds with another.

But if you will let your personal pride prevail, if you will refuse to forgive simply because the person who erred against you has not said “sorry” to you yet, you are, in effect, disobeying God’s commandment. And your disobedience to God has its inevitable consequences.

As it is written in Matthew 6:15 (KJV),

But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Plain and simple. The Father will forgive your trespasses if you forgive those who have hurt you or those who have done you wrong. But if you do not want to forgive them, then, the Father will not forgive you either.

I just hope that you realize the significance of meriting and not meriting the Father’s forgiveness. To merit the Father’s forgiveness means to merit eternal bliss in paradise; but to not be forgiven by the Father because you refused to forgive others means to be doomed in eternal punishment in hell. The choice is yours to make. But surely, real Christians will always choose to be forgiving.

May God bless us all!


  1. If Our Lord Jesus Christ dwells in our heart, there is no room for hatred, agony, and vengeance in our soul and mind. Thanks be to God!

  2. very informative message from the Lord

  3. real Christians will always choose to be forgiving.-TRUE


  4. maraming salamat po sa Dios, sa patuloy na pagpapaalala po sa amin ng maraming mga bagay :)))

  5. A real Christian always grants forgiveness to a person who erred against him or her, even if that person did not say the magic word — “sorry”. Thanks be to God for another understanding in the Bible

  6. It is not easy to Forgive and Forget because you are hurt and that is a human fact . You try to retaliate instead of embracing the person who commit mistake against you . It resonates to us what the other person did against us especially when it’s our love ones . We tend to ask and blame ourselves why it happened and why us? Then we let Anger and Hatred Set in and we forget all the beautiful things and times you shared with that person. We let our guards down.

    As it written in Ecclesiastes 7:20

    “ Indeed there is no one on earth who is righteous, no one who does what is right and never sins”

    No man is sinless.

    Forgiving is learning How to Love yourself. We have to be happy If someone wronged against us because it gives us the opportunity to Forgive and be Forgiven by God from our own sins.

    When we Forgive from our heart it also means Forgetting. We start from Zero . And when we do this we doing ourselves a huge favor for will provide us peace in our hearts and our soul.

    Thank you so much Brother Eli for this a very timely and relevant topic and explanation directly from the verses from the Bible . May we all learn how to Forgive and Forget and give our soul at Rest.

  7. Thanks be to God for this article about forgiving. It is easy to forgive now.

  8. Forgiveness is the cure for Bitter heart!
    To God be the Glory!

  9. Matthew 6:12 (KJV)

    And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

    Amen!! Thanks be to God for this another blog bro eli❤️❤️❤️

  10. This is very timely because nowadays, people barely forgive each other because of their pride. As a Christian, we shouldn't be like that. We should always forgive for us to be forgiven. Thanks be to God for this wonderful message.

  11. Salamat po sa Dios..SA mga aral na nakakapukaw sa mga damdamin at nakapapapalakas Ng loob at mga kasukasuhan ... Thanks be to God!!To God Be The Glory..

  12. Thank you for this Blog @MrControversyX.
    I'll be honest that sometimes i forget to forgive others..

  13. "love means yo dont need to say im sorry"

  14. Definitely a good read! Thanks be to God for the reminder. 😍

  15. ... even if the person did not say the magic word — “sorry” learn to forgive and forget, that's the way to give our soul a real rest and peace.
    salamat sa Dios!

  16. Thanks be to God for this kind of teaching from the Bible through Bro. Eli!

  17. It is a great relief in our hearts if we forgive the person/people who did us wrong. It will not only benefit us physically and mentally but also spiritually. Thank God for this article. Worth reading and sharing!

  18. Amen - "Real Christians will always choose to be forgiving."

  19. Such a wonderful insight on the topic of forgiveness.
    It is truly relieving and comforting to know that we are being forgiven with our own sins if we forgive those who have committed sin towards us.
    Thanks be to God!

  20. To forgive those against you, is the best thing you can do.

  21. One wise man said, "Kung iniisip mo na wala kang kabuluhan, mas magaang tanggapin yung pagkakamali ng ibang tao sa'yo." (kahit 'di sila aware na nakakasakit na sila) And that's a high virtue and faith if you'll endure to all of their doings.

  22. Unforgiveness must be that ONE thing that would set us back from obtaining God's mercy. I think a repentant murderer has even better chances at salvation than a self-righteous priest with anger in his heart. I mean how can anyone with a dark heavy heart live peacefully or happily ever after in heaven to begin with? Pragmatically, I don't want to not forgive people. Besides that it's evil, being angry all the time must be EXHAUSTING.

  23. Amen a timely reminder we should always choose to forgive so that we also be forgiven, learn to forgive and we will learn also to ❤ thanks be to God!