Love and Relationships: How Should Millennials Handle Falling in Love, the Biblical Way?

2/02/2019 64 Comments

Biblical Advice on Young Romance

In what they call digital age, the so-called millennials, or today’s Generation Z, have differing attitudes towards love and relationships. But it’s not only the younger generation that displays a liberal stand on this matter but also those who were born way, way ahead. Many take relationships as a mere game, something that is done for fun only, something that shouldn’t be taken seriously. And being such, they do not settle with just one partner; sometimes they have romantic relationships with more than one person. And fidelity seems to be out of the question.

Is that how God wants us to regard relationships, specifically, the relationship between a man and a woman?

The will of God is for us to be faithful to our partners, or sweethearts. And to show God that you are faithful to your partner, even if you are not married yet, you should no longer flirt with others. You should not even send text messages to another because that is usually how infidelity begins. If you are already engaged in a relationship you should not go out with anybody anymore. Let us not practice what the ungodly people do for they just take relationships for fun.

JAMES 5:12 says,

But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by any other oath: but let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation.

That is the law of the Gospel. And this law is not just for a group but also for those who are in a relationship. That is why if a woman has committed herself to be in a relationship with a man, she should no longer entertain other men. The same applies with the man. The moment that he commits himself to a woman in a relationship, he should refrain from displaying himself to other women and he should stop hanging out with friends the way he used to.

What is the implication if a man, who is already in a relationship, is found to be in relationship also with another woman simultaneously?

JAMES 1:7-8 says,

7 For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.
8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.

When can a man be considered double minded? When he claims that he loves more than one woman. He must be crazy! You can never love two at the same time. Christ said that the two shall be one flesh. Never did He say that the three, or four, or five shall be one flesh. That cannot be! The three, or four, or five can never be one flesh and spirit. There will surely be envy and jealousy and strife. 

When it comes to romantic relationships, God does not permit a third party. It should be between one man and one woman only. A man should not take two women at the same time. During the time of the Israelites, anyone who commits that is burnt.

LEVITICUS 20:14 says,

And if a man take a wife and her mother, it is wickedness: they shall be burnt with fire, both he and they; that there be no wickedness among you.

That is an example of an unforgivable sin. A man who takes the mother of his wife and makes her his concubine is committing an unforgivable sin. And during the time of the Israelites, all the three of them shall be burnt to death.

Now, what does it teach us? As written in II TIMOTHY 3:16,

All Scriptures is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.

You cannot have two sweethearts, or two spouses, at the same time. If you do that, it would mean that you are a “double minded man”. And as mentioned in JAMES 1:7, “... for let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.”

Apparently, that is something very serious. If you are a double minded man you would not receive anything from God – both spiritual and material.

JAMES 1:8 also said that “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.” So, ladies, beware! Do not ever fall in love with a double minded man even if he happens to be the handsomest of all. Supposing that you already have a feeling for that man, suppress that feeling. If you insist in having a relationship with that kind of man, it’s just like committing suicide. As the word of God said, that man shall not receive anything from Him. In the sight of God, that man is wicked.

In other words, before you enter into a relationship, think about it very well. Be sure that you are his only one, and will always be the only one. Do not make hasty decisions which, later on, you will regret.

64 comments:

  1. Thanks be to God for reminding us to always stay faithful weather in a relationship or in faith.

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  2. Very well said :)
    After reading this article I realized a lots of things and I realized that I love him even more.

    Thanks be to God for his unspeakable gifts.

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  3. Nice point, and very timely too, not only for the millenials... Thanks for this piece of wisdom Mr. Controversy.

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  4. Absolutely! Thanks God for this blog

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  5. Very timely blog. If you plan not to take the relationshiop seriously do not even commit.

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  6. Thank you Mr. Controversy EXtraordinary for reminding us.

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  7. Being uncertain in decision, especially in a romantic relationship is one of a youth's character in our present time. But if we will be guided by the scriptures in the Bible, we will not be mislead by the pleasures of our flesh. Thanks Ingkong! we love you!

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  8. Very well said! Thanks be to God for this wonderful teaching...

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  9. Be guided accordingly and biblically.

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  10. thanks be to God for the advice.. I will share this to my close friend.

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  11. A very timely and informative blog. Thanks be to God!

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  12. In other words, before you enter into a relationship, think about it very well. Be sure that you are his only one, and will always be the only one. Do not make hasty decisions which, later on, you will regret.

    Agreed ❤

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  13. Let us be serious in having a relationship with one partner for it is the will of God..

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  14. My life would have been meaningful choosing to follow the law of the gospel..

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  15. AMES 1:17, “... for let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.”

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  16. "Be sure that you are his only one, and will always be the only one." Noted.

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  17. Very inspiring piece. Thanks GOD for the wisdom from Mr. Controversy. GOD Bless you more for enlightening people and for making their lives hopeful again.

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  18. This is the best and Good that need to do we millenials .

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  19. From the Bible's perspective, relationship is a sacred thing which if binded by God can be considered a matrimonial Bond eternally...

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  20. As a La Verdarian, a million thanks to God because we are trained not to be in a relationship while studying in La Verdad Christian School. Now, even I have the freedom to be in a relationship, I’m saving all my love to the right person from God.

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  21. On point. It was a good read. Thank you

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  22. Thanks be to God for another enlightening blog from Mr Controversy! Teaching us younger generation the Christian behaviour

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  23. Thanks be to GOD.It is very timely coz im looking for a relationship that FAITHFULNESS TO GOD would bring you to faithfulness the your partner even in going steady or tied to the commandments of GOD as husband and wife.

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  24. Yes!!!If you have fear in GOD each one should stick to one another and be FAITHFUL until death do they part.Its timely coz relationship is opening its door to me now🥰🥰🥰

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  25. Thanks be to God for the guidance from God in the Bible when commiting into relationship. To God Be The Glory, Amen!!!

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  26. Thanks be to God ❤

    before you enter into a relationship, think about it very well. Be sure that you are his only one, and will always be the only one. Do not make hasty decisions which, later on, you will regret.

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  27. t means you’re human. Falling in love with two people at the same time might not be that common, but it does happen. Love starts with a feeling, and a strong one at that. You may have that feeling for someone and then unexpectedly feel it for someone else. After all, there are many beautiful and people in the world. You can't help what you're attracted to.

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  28. Everyone's knows that a cheating with someone while you are im relationship is a sin to God.God says man is destined for one women.Being cheated on will destroys someone's life.So be careful in choosing someone to spend your life with.💖

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  29. I think this article is not for millennials only. This article is for a people that don't know what is the true meaning of love because for me love is a forever feelings.

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  30. Be loyal to your partner even if you're not married yet. And also be loyal to your partner if both of you has married. The true partner or relationship is between men and women only, because we all know that in the Bible, God said that between men and women only will be together for lifetime or for the rest of their lives.

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  31. So we should be content with someone who make us happy because you are more than one you love it is also a sin of god.

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  32. the many millennial today is in relationship. the love is start to feelings of very who. the love person is not wrong but sure you that the love is true. to someone love is not game that went you leave is going to leave. when you begin your finish to the end.

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  33. I think that thanks for the valuabe information and insights you have so provided here. How to be happy in life

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  34. Amen thanks be to God for this info.😍😘

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