Live-in Relationships and Civil Marriage in the Bible

2/09/2019 , 24 Comments

Choosing Civil or Church Wedding

In the society where we live in today, it is a common thing that we come across single parents – either they had failed marriages so they separated, or they just happened to beget children out of wedlock.

Whichever is the case, these single moms or single dads usually look for another partner, and then they live together even without entering into marriage at all. Given this situation, the question that might arise is, is it wrong for a man and a woman to live together outside marriage, specifically a marriage that is officiated by a priest or a pastor?

Actually, a civil wedding is much better than a religious wedding. In wedding ceremonies officiated by priests or pastors you would be required to give offerings and you have to pay a certain amount. They make money out of it. But biblically speaking, it is not really the marriage certificate that matters most but the sincerity of both parties to live together as husband and wife.

GALATIANS 3:15 says,

Brethren, I speak after the manner of men; Though it be but a man’s covenant, yet if it be confirmed, no man disannulleth, or addeth thereto.

It is very clear that, if both parties come up with a mutual agreement to live together as husband and wife, it is already acknowledged by God – even if they were not married by a priest. You see, there is nowhere in the Bible will you find that Joseph and Mary got married, or that there was a wedding ceremony that took place at all.

MATTHEW 1:18-20 says,

18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost.
19 Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily.
20 But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.

It means that they were betrothed or engaged to be married. But before the actual wedding ceremony took place Mary was found with a child because God made her an instrument for the birth of Christ. At first, Joseph decided to put Mary away because he thought that she became unfaithful to him. Until the angel told him, “fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife . . .”

But what was clear was that Mary was already acknowledged as Joseph’s wife even if they were just engaged then. And even if there was no formal wedding ceremony yet, God regarded Joseph and Mary as a couple already.

This is just to prove that the pact between a man and a woman is more important than a marriage certificate. Even if you have all the documents signed before a priest, they would all be useless if the contracting parties would not be true to their wedding vows and would just keep on fighting day and night. That is why it would be best to assess everything first before entering into an agreement to live with someone. Foremost, you have to be sure that the person you decide to live with truly loves you despite your past. But if you start to feel that he is taking you for granted, better watch out because that is a manifestation that he doesn’t really love you. Better find a man who would love you very much and who would care for you even if you have a child out of wedlock. If he truly loves you, he would also accept and love your child, and he would provide all your needs, both material and emotional.

I TIMOTHY 5:8 says,

But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

For God, anyone who does not care for his own, especially for his family is considered wicked. Irresponsible fathers and irresponsible mothers are regarded by the Bible as wicked. So, if you see that your partner right now does not care for his household, you are in trouble. There is a big possibility that you might spend the rest of your life in misery if you would stick to that man.

Think very well before deciding to spend your life with someone until death.

24 comments:

  1. A good eye opener for all lovers before entering the vow of a married life. A warning to refrain from entering hell like household

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  2. Very enlightening to those play up with relationships.

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  3. Had I known of this biblical truth earlier, I would not be suffering of a broken family now...

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  4. The biblical truth here is wonderful and it can stop a broken family life for a super and meaningful christian love affair till death.

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  5. That's true, if a man really loves you ,he would accept and love your child also.🙂

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  6. Maraming nagkakasal kuno sa mga iglesia, pero di nila alam ituro yang aral ng Dios. Ang mahirap pa, yung ipinagsama daw ng dios nila, batas ng tao ang naghihiwalay.

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  7. Thanks be to God or this insight.

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  8. Such a wonderful explanation thank God.

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  9. Relationship between man and woman is a sacred vow in the eyes of God so it is bound by God's laws for us to righteous!
    To God be the Glory!

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  10. If this will be the guiding principle of all the people then we will have a better life and few problems in our country since the basic unit of society is the family.

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  11. It's really a must to assess both your feelings toward each other. You can't risk livong together if there is even a pinch of doubt. You must both accept each other's past for you to live a harmonious relationship by living together. together.

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  12. An eye opener for those who seek the truth about relationship which the bible teaches
    To God be the Glory!

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  13. Thank's be to God for the enlightenment.. To God be all the Glory..

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  14. Very enlightening...To God be the Glory...

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  15. Very enlightening...To God be the Glory...

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  16. For almost 7 years we're happy and contented even without married,.

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  17. “But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”
    ‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭7:8-9‬ ‭NKJV‬‬
    https://www.bible.com/114/1co.7.8-9.nkjv

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  18. Many have entered into a relationship not because they love each other but just because of the lust of their flesh, so there's no assurance that said relationship would last. Everyone should learn the love that is being taught by the bible as it is the greatest. Glory be to God...

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  19. To God be the Glory!! ☺️😊

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    1. To God be the glory. The teaching of our Lord Jesus Christ must be obeyed.

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  21. Thanks be to God. Very informative biblical wisdom.

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