Is Your Marriage in Trouble? "Learn the Christian Way"

2/16/2019 , 36 Comments


Marital relationship is not always a bed of roses; it is not always a smooth sail. There are times when the going gets tough and shaky, and there are problems and conflicts that arise that test the couple’s endurance and love for each other.

Good if the couple decides to sit down and talk about their issues and concerns with prudence. What if the couples would really clash and hurl hurting words against each other? What if they go beyond the “word war” and resort to the physical and emotional battle? Surely, the next thing we’ll see is that one of them would be packing his things and moving out of the house.

But will stepping out of their dwelling place resolve the problem? In the first place, will that gesture be in conformity with biblical admonition for husbands and wives?

Biblically, it is improper for a Christian couple, both husband and wife, to leave their abode. Instead, they must dwell together; they must live together.

I PETER 3:7 says,

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

That is the Christian way of life. A Christian husband is commanded by God to live with his wife, bearing in mind that she is the weaker vessel that needs protection which only he, her husband, could give. A Christian husband is the protector of his wife.

EPHESIANS 5:23-25 says,

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it:

The Bible is telling us of a great relationship between Christ and the Church. A husband must love his wife the way Christ loved the Church. He must not leave his wife inasmuch as Christ did not leave the Church either. In fact, when He was about to ascend to heaven, He told the Church, I will not leave you. I will be with you up to the end of the world. 

MATTHEW 28:20 says,

Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.

Very clearly, as far as the Bible is concerned, it is untoward for the husband to leave his wife primarily because he is duty-bound to protect her.

There are instances in the Bible wherein the wife leaves her husband but never the husband leaving his wife. And if his wife leaves him, then he becomes free. He is now at liberty.

I CORINTHIANS 7:15 says,

But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

According to the Bible, if the unbelieving spouse decides to leave, let her go. Especially if the husband had already exhausted all means to make his wife stay, and still he failed to convince her, he may let her depart. And when she leaves, the husband is no longer under bondage.

This is one particular situation wherein the husband, or the wife, is not being held very tightly by God’s law. When the wife leaves, then the husband becomes free; when the husband leaves, the wife likewise becomes free. But God’s will is for husband and wife to dwell together until death.

36 comments:

  1. If all couples will consult first the Bible before getting married or prior engaging into a relationship then no broken family, no heartache, no emotional shock or grief.

    Thank you so much Mr. Controversy, in enlightening us thru the Words of God on how couples should be properly guided by God's Words for a better, happier and lasting relationship.

    God bless us all!

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  2. Amazing! Gracias a Dios!

    #ToLoveIsToEndureUntilTheEnd

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  3. Biblical and sensible. Thanks be to GOD.

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  4. in Christian Ways.😍

    #ToLoveIsToEndureUntilTheEnd

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  5. God is Love . . . therefore when think you are in-love better consult Him
    first

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  6. A wonderful insight,and a reminder to all married couple and those who are about to get married..Salamat sa Dios����

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  7. Very true. If all groups only preach the gospel, broken families will not be rampant. Thanks be to God that there still a preacher that preaches the bible purely!

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  8. Thanks be to God, very timely❤��

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  9. Thanks be to God! Very timely❤👏

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  10. Thank you
    God is Good all the time 😍😍😍

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  11. Thanks be to God for another wisdom

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  12. Thank's be to God for this blog.. Really I learn more How to treat my Wife in God's way according to the Bible..

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  13. just very timely blog i’d say... wala ng usapan pag binasa toh... salamat po sa Dios

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  14. very timely... sana basahin ito ng mga may asawa — to resolve their issues or prevent themselves from hurting physically / emotionally when problem arises... salamat sa Dios!

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  15. Why destroy your health, enjoy a marriage life in a christian way..

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  16. The christian way of getting married is the solution to corruption, drugs and social cancer...

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  17. what is " your coment will be visible after approval"? you people only show what you like? talk about freedom or there is no such thing on your book. who is hypocrite now?

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  18. If we fear GOD, marriage would be preserved until death do they part.Thanking GOD of this Article.

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  19. 2 Corinthian 12:16. this is the christian way.

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  20. From my own point of view,to live a happy married life is guided by all the laws and teaching in the bible!
    To God be the Glory!

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  21. Very timely at this point of our lives. Thank you for sharing this Bro Eli! To God be the glory!

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  22. Thanks be to God for this one of a kind article from Mr. Controversy X.

    :-)

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  23. Thanks be to God for this wonderful wisdom. May God bless our family.

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  24. yeah, because true love is a center of God, for me dear friends, carefully build to selves up in this most holy faith by praying in the Holy Spirit, staying right at the center of God's love, keeping my arms open and outstretched, ready for the mercy of our Master, Jesus Christ. And enjoy your life with your partner.

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  25. The story is about a husband and wife, who has not always been romatic, very happy and peaceful. Often a relationship goes through extreme conflict and misunderstanding. But the man must not leave or abandon his wife, as Christ told the church that he would not leave it and remain until the end of the world.

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  26. God is always find ways to process the person who destined to us, trust him he will a better person to us

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  27. Yes, I agree because there's no perfect love that can make a person feel special, no other than the way Christ love the church.

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  28. I think this is right love your wife like how god love the church because she is the precious woman that can give you happiness in life

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  29. That is the true definition of love, like the love of God even if how tired you are or the sacrifice you give to your wife.

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